8 Steps to Stress Less

Stress! How do you escape it? And if you can’t escape it, how can you deal with it?

Try these 8 Steps to Stress Less. It’s a short read. The steps are simple, and effective.

What if our internal stress level is what’s actually causing many (or all) of the stressful situations that occur in our lives? What if the things in your life that you choose to perceive as stressful is what’s causing more stressful experiences in your experience?

Do you think I have it backwards? When life calms down, you’ll stress less, right? When the Universe begins to soften what it’s throwing at you, then you’ll get calm inside. Most of us assume that’s how life is, I did for many years. It took me a long time to realize that life doesn’t work that way.

Your life is playing out the way it is in direct correlation to how much inner peace you’re able to (or not able to) access on a consistent, regular basis. Here’s the hammer: You have to learn how to maintain this inner peace regardless of what’s happening around you, or even within you.

If you’ve got physical, emotional or mental challenges that you’ve been told are stress-related, please consider printing or saving this, and reading it and thinking about it when you wake up each day for the next 60 days. If that seems like too big of a commitment, try it for a week. Turn them into morning intentions, and state the intentions daily. There’s no right or wrong way to do this, you just read them each day and think about what they mean a little. A few minutes is all it takes. I like to hear from you, so feel free to share your experiences with this here on the blog, or write me here…

8 Steps to Stress Less

1 – Allow your original Soul essence to speak to you, and to be your voice today.
Even if you don’t yet know who or what your Soul is, intend this every day. Who or what else can you trust, if not yourself?

2 – Discount and let go of every thought that is unkind or discouraging.
If you desire some understanding of them in the future, contact me and I’m happy to help you make sense of them. In the meantime, let them go.

3 – Expect awesomeness in all areas of your life, and expect awesomeness in all areas of your loved ones’ lives.
You cannot create well-being while focusing on destruction. Worry is not love, nor is it well-being. Worry is fear. I can give you a hundred reasons to discount thoughts of fear when you recognize them, such as how fear strengthens and enlarges the ego, fear limits your ability to hear your soul’s voice, fear strains your personal and professional relationships, and fear prevents you from following your dreams… too many to list here. Expect awesomeness, be patient, and let go of the outcome. This is important so I’m going to repeat it… Expect awesomeness, be patient, and let go of the outcome.

4 – Be compassionate, with everyone and everything. Especially yourself.
This doesn’t mean allowing anyone to harm you, or limit you, or disempower you, including yourself. You do not need to let go of your compassion to maintain your personal power or well-being. Compassion is an integral quality of your Soul. Lack of compassion is a characteristic of the human ego. Practice more compassion and you’ll gain greater connection to the original Soul essence that is at the core of your being.

5 – Notice awesomeness around you and within you.
Don’t look for what’s not pleasing to you, look for what is. If something or someone irritates you, turn your attention away. If something makes you feel good and it’s not hurting anyone, do more of it. If what’s not pleasing you is inside of you, start looking for more things within you and about you that you do like. Next, do the work and take the emotional journeys to let go of what you don’t like about yourself. No more guilt, no more shame, no more recycling the unhappy past. Look for and create more of what feels good.

6 – Stop defending your opinions.
Both internally and externally, stop defending yourself and your opinions. This will improve your relationships, help to quiet your ego, and enhance your connection with your Soul. In addition to all that, it’s just a waste of energy. Know anyone that disagrees with your political opinions? When was the last time you had strong, passionate differences of opinion with someone, where your arguments changed their mind and caused them to see it all your way? Exactly. Stop defending your opinions.

7 – Let go of the perception that something is wrong.
If shit needs to be addressed, deal with it. If there’s nothing you can do about it, and you’re just recycling old thoughts, feelings or experiences from the past, let them go. Keep working at this until it’s easy. If you need help to do this, seek the help. It’s easier to recognize that all is really well and wonderful when you accept life on life’s terms. Nothing’s wrong.

8 – Reach for gratitude.
In this moment right now, how many things can you find to be grateful for? The more often you do this throughout the day, the more often you’ll pull yourself into the moment. Plus, your ability to feel and be grateful directly relates to your ability to manifest things around you that you’re grateful for. Want more good shit in your life? Be grateful. Want even more good shit in your life? Be more grateful, more often.

My experience is that gentle, small life changes (like setting aside 5-10 minutes each day to read this) can shift everything in our lives in amazing, powerful ways. Change takes a little effort, however it’s effort that’s always worth it once we’re on the other side.

Sending fond thoughts,



    1. So happy it was helpful. I love how frequently we receive what we need at the perfect time. Thanks so much for letting me know!

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