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We Are All Much Greater Than Our Egos

Have you ever struggled with someone difficult in your life? Do you know how to spot narcissism? I saw this “Narcissist Check List” in a meme on Facebook recently, and it hit a little too close to home:

– Two-faced, critical of others behind their backs
– Blames others for failures
– Acts different in public and private
– Unreliable
– Superior Attitude
– Lives in fantasy world of porn and affairs, and dreams of fame
– Distorts facts to suit own agenda
– Irresponsible with money
– Only emotionally available when wants something
– Lacks empathy for others
– Controlling
– Provokes others, then blames them for fight
– Can’t admit mistakes

Psychologist Stephen Johnson describes a narcissist as someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.”

The Mayo Clinic describes narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. Behind this mask of ultra confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism… Narcissistic personality disorder treatment is centered around talk therapy (psychotherapy).”

In my younger years I was a classic narcissist. I’m not a big fan of labels like this, or labels at all for that matter, but the hard reality was that in my 20s and 30s and even into my early 40s, I fit most, and at times all, of the characteristics in the above list.
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