5 Steps to Physical Well-Being

What’s your wellness number?

So how’s your body feeling today? Scan it, beginning at the top of your head, and move slowly down to your feet. As you do, count all of your “attention grabbers”… all the aches and pains, illnesses and other discomforts all the way down. What’s your number?

If your number is 0, and it really is ZERO, awesome! Chances are you’re already doing much of what you need to, to keep yourself in physical well-being. This article may help you avoid some areas you could be at risk for physical challenges in the future.

If your number is 1-3, you probably could use a little help. Read on and let’s see if we can help you get that number down a bit.

If your number is 4 or more, read, read and read this again! Holy smokes friend, you deserve to feel so much better than you are. And if you only take one thing away from this post, please take this: It is possible for you (yes, you!) to feel good, and to live in physical well-being.

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We Are All Much Greater Than Our Egos

Have you ever struggled with someone difficult in your life? Do you know how to spot narcissism? I saw this “Narcissist Check List” in a meme on Facebook recently, and it hit a little too close to home:

– Two-faced, critical of others behind their backs
– Blames others for failures
– Acts different in public and private
– Unreliable
– Superior Attitude
– Lives in fantasy world of porn and affairs, and dreams of fame
– Distorts facts to suit own agenda
– Irresponsible with money
– Only emotionally available when wants something
– Lacks empathy for others
– Controlling
– Provokes others, then blames them for fight
– Can’t admit mistakes

Psychologist Stephen Johnson describes a narcissist as someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.”

The Mayo Clinic describes narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. Behind this mask of ultra confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism… Narcissistic personality disorder treatment is centered around talk therapy (psychotherapy).”

In my younger years I was a classic narcissist. I’m not a big fan of labels like this, or labels at all for that matter, but the hard reality was that in my 20s and 30s and even into my early 40s, I fit most, and at times all, of the characteristics in the above list.
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A couple tools for manifesting what you want

Tools for Manifesting Your Desires - Tools for Manifesting Abundance

Need a little help manifesting something? Or changing your thoughts on a subject? Have you read The Secret but struggled to make it work for you? Here’s a couple tools that may help:

What do you want? Define it clearly. Get a mental image of it in your mind. If it’s something less tangible, use a mental image of the changes likely to occur if it manifests. A house or a car are easy to conjure up in your mind. A job when you’re unemployed may be more difficult. In the case of the job, picture yourself happily going to work. See yourself (happily) depositing your generous paycheck. See your bills paid and your savings account building. Create images in your mind.

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Is there any news I can really trust?

Ponder for a minute why we’re fascinated with news. Or what we perceive as news. We feel like it’s our responsibility to watch, to follow, to act upon it. We depend on the flow of information on TV, the internet, Facebook and Twitter to make decisions, decisions such as whether we’ll be supporting a candidate or a cause, or wanting to stop a candidate or cause.

Most, if not all of what we read has a “spin” these days. Our opinions are automatically shaped by reading other’s spins. It can take reading a lot of other’s spins, from different perspectives to get a sense of the truth. Most don’t do that. Their opinions and decisions are formed based on the massive flow of PR & marketing put out by corporate firms supporting the politicians and special interest groups. Corporate news is not based on news, it is based on attracting the most attention. It has nothing to do with truth or reality. What is the end result? This new quasi-news incites some to great fear, and incites others to great indignation and opposition. It incites. It regularly blows my mind that someone educated and intelligent is making these editorial decisions. Why? Because stories with no purpose other than to incite attract people that want to be incited. Continue reading

What is the definition of judgement? (And how does judgement f*ck up my karma?)

What is judgement? There’s good judgment, the kind that we strive to get better at… where we evaluate something (hopefully) accurately and make a (hopefully successful) decision. And then there’s being judgmental, or what I call limiting judgment.

The first I see as a wise and thoughtful judge’s decision in court, an example of the latter would be Nancy Grace giving a personal opinion with her lips pursed on Court TV.

The dictionary’s definition of judgement is “to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely”. I think this definition of judgment is partly why we think it’s ok to hold limiting judgments of ourselves and of others. The definition states that our judgment is objective, authoritative and wise. Most judgments we hold of ourselves and others are neither objective nor wise. (Authoritative yes… our egos really love to be right.)

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What is that cramp in my stomach?!

What if… we each have our own means to guide us through our lives? What if each one of us has our own guidance system built-in? And what if all we have to do to live the life of our dreams is to understand how our guidance system works and follow it?  What if our lack of understanding about how our personal guidance system works, (and our mis-reading and mistaking the queues sent to us by it), is the true culprit when we find ourselves in periods of our lives that we’re receiving much of what we don’t want?

Our emotional guidance system is a mechanism, (or more accurately a series of mechanisms within each one of us) that can really help us maneuver joyfully through life.

When we think about (or observe or experience) something and feel totally blissful and calm inside, and the voice within us is either quiet or encouraging, our emotional guidance system is confirming that it’s cool to move forward in that direction. Deepak Chopra refers to this as you letting you know that what you’re observing is “karmically appropriate”.

“Karmically appropriate” = “Yeah! That’s cool! Go in that direction.”

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I’m not gonna cry. I’m not gonna cry. I’m not gonna cry anymore.

What if… emotional journeys are a healthy part of a healthy life? They are, provided we let our shit go as we’re moving through it. When we hang onto drama or emotional turbulence (or re-create it) we gain much less forward movement from our emotional journeys.

Emotional journey = Moving through/past a fear energy that’s accompanied by a strong emotional response such as grief, sadness, panic, hopelessness, etc.

All of us have thoughts, memories, childhood fears, etc, that are limiting us, or have limited us at one time. The cat that scratched you or the dog that bit you when you were a toddler can cause much fear and carry much energy for you as an adult. Fears related to abandonment after your parent’s divorce can linger for decades. And it’s not just childhood experiences that cause fears. At different times of my life I’ve had loved one’s illnesses, a failed business, and painful relationship breakups, all profoundly affected me.

Some I moved past easily. Others not so much. Some of these experiences left me with large, untaken emotional journeys that limited me for many years.

So how do I release them? First, by allowing myself to acknowledge the fears. One by one, I ask myself “what are the fears I came out of this painful experience with?” As I face the fears, I allow myself to feel the emotions of sadness, fear, loss, hopelessness or grief that accompany them, with the intention of releasing it all and letting it go.

So many people fear crying. No one dies from crying, we die from the shit we don’t allow ourselves to cry about. The great majority of us here die from the unresolved fear and pain that we’ve suppressed and refused to allow to surface. And before we die from these unresolved issues, we live in physical, mental and emotional pain and suffering related to them.

To get past it we have to go through it. To go through it we have to allow it to the surface, accept and own it, move through it, and then choose to let go of it.

The Dalai Lama on Warm-heartedness

I love this clip of the Dalai Lama promoting warm-heartedness. I love it.

I challenge all of us (including myself) to try something today: Every situation and person that you encounter that ticks you off, causes fear, or any other unwanted feeling or thought, love them & yourself. Let go of your fear, anger, etc, and send yourself warm heartedness (love/acceptance/adoration) first, and then send more of that warm heartedness out to whatever/whoever pissed you off.

It’s not as easy as it seems, but POWERFUL! Happy Friday everyone!

Click here to view: The Dalai Lama on Warm Heartedness on YouTube

Karma is Buddhist for I’m rubber, you’re glue… Quotes on Karma

Your believing or not believing in karma has no effect on its existence, nor on its consequences to you. Just as a refusal to believe in the ocean would not prevent you from drowning.

F Paul Wilson, The Tomb

Karma is the term used in Buddhist teaching for the “record of services”. Taoists use the term “te”. Christians us the term “deed.” Many other spiritual beings use the term “virtue.” Karma, te, deed, and virtue are the same thing but in different words. To understand karma is to understand all of these words.

Zhi Gang Sha, The Power of Soul

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

Wayne Dyer

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